Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Everything Must Wait.

I really need to get back to the gym.
I really want to start back the book club.
I really want to start blogging more regularly.
I really want to start getting up 15 minutes earlier.

But now that we're only 5 weeks away from 2014, everything can wait until the start of the new year.

Is anyone else doing that too? Deciding to put off everything until 2014?

It makes no sense to start tomorrow when we are THISCLOSE to January 1st!

I am still actively doing my 101 in 1001 list, by the way. It's going well and it has surprisingly motivated me.

This really hasn't felt much like a holiday week to me. I'm working today and Friday. I figure if I am in town, I might as well work.

A couple things to mention...

1. I read this awesome book last week.

I downloaded it on a whim, but this turned out to be my favorite book of the year.

2. Since it's Thanksgiving week, I feel like it's appropriate to tell you something I'm thankful for....

My third grade Sunday School class!!!!

Teaching this little class of four kids has probably been the highlight of my year. It's forced me to study the Bible to prepare for lessons each week and I feel like I've succeeded in teaching them so much!

These kids can now tell you the entire history of Israel from King Saul to King Solomon.

Ok, maybe not.

But when I ask them how David killed Goliath, they all shout "David chopped off Goliath's head!!!!!"

Well, at least they've learned something! :-)

Monday, November 4, 2013

Thoughts on Year One

To sum up the first year of marriage, I would say it was surprisingly difficult.

I think the tough part for us was getting married and then immediately going through several major transitions all at once. One week after we were married, we left our cozy condo, moved into a new house, and combined all of our finances. 

At first this all seemed very fun and exciting.
At first.

Then it became 2.5 acres and a 3,200 sq. ft. house to maintain.

Add that to my disillusionment that Brian would suddenly stop spending tons of money on unnecessary car-related things.

Add that to the fact that our closest friends moved outside of our five-mile radius and Brian's favorite bar was no longer the weekend hangout. 

The previous years of fun and care-free dating suddenly became a thing of the past. 

I remember being so utterly exhausted in February and thinking "we're only three months in and I'm ready to throw in the towel!" 

I'm embarrassed to admit this, but we literally had to sit down one morning and have one of  those conflict resolution discussions where you can only use "I" statements and you have to acknowledge your feelings without ever blaming the other person.

For instance, I would politely say  "I feel stressed because there is water leaking from a 240 gallon fish tank onto our hardwood floors in the living room," instead of saying the really mean words floating around in my head.

We've overcome some difficult moments, but we've grown stronger as a couple. We've had a very blessed year and I couldn't be more thankful.

Choosing to love Brian everyday is sometimes just a matter of changing my attitude.

Brian's morning routine involves shaving over the bathroom sink with an electric razor. When he's done, he shakes off the razor, depositing tiny little hairs all over the sink and counter. Next, he splashes some water around in a fruitless attempt to wash away these little hairs.

For as long as I can remember, I've let these tiny hairs drive me insane! I'm ashamed to admit that something so silly has had the power to make me so angry. The other day, however, I decided to change my attitude. I decided I would be thankful that Brian has hair (great hair, I might add) and that he is alive, healthy, and able to leave these tiny little hairs all over the bathroom sink when he's shaving.

It has totally changed my perspective.

The first year of marriage has definitely been a learning experience.
There's been some trial-and-error.
There's been some ups and downs.
There's been some tears shed, but luckily no punches thrown! :-)

We survived and we're still madly in love.

One year down, now on to the next....