Thursday, January 14, 2016

2016 Goals

This year is going to be an adjustment and I'll probably spend most of my days in survival mode; however, I still want to set some goals for myself while I strive to create a new normal.

Here's what I came up with for 2016:

1. Attend church on Sundays

Why is this so hard?! For starters, we don't have a church we go to in Raleigh and Brian is not too interested in going each week, so that leaves me to either find a church in Raleigh by myself or drive to Durham to go to a church where I actually know some peeps (plus, the pastor there is amazing and I always get a lot out of his sermons). I rarely went to church pre-baby, so this one will likely be tough. I need to remind myself what my priorities are. "You are where you want to be" is one of my personal truths, so I need to stop making excuses.

Side note: I just went to my church's website to listen to last week's sermon while writing this blog post, and I saw that the current series is called "Why Bother with Church? Discover God's Purpose for Church in Your Life." If that's not a sign....LOL!

2. Create a schedule for laundry & maintenance cleaning

We're using Molly Maids again, but I will still need to do some cleaning in between their visits. Also, I want to get out of my habit of saving laundry for Sundays. Between towels, sheets, regular clothes, delicate clothes, and whites, I spend an entire day washing and folding.

3. Go on a date once a month...with Brian, of course ;-)

I first thought that Brian and I could alternate planning a date each month, even if it was something incredibly simple and un-creative, such as going to a movie. But then on second thought, I realized I just needed to plan it myself each month. If there's something I've learned from my 7 years of dating him, I will be setting myself up for disappointment if I expect him to plan something and then he doesn't meet my expectations.

4. Plan something with friends once a month

Once a month sounds so doable, but in reality it's kinda tough. It's hard coordinating schedules when everyone lives such busy lives. Luckily I had a coffee date with my bestie last week and I also planned a margarita & Mexican night with friends last Saturday. January mission accomplished!

5. Complete my Learning & Development certification at Duke

If you complete a certain number of Learning & Development classes, you can receive a certificate in leadership, supervisory skills, etc. I started working last year on a certificate, so I think I can finish that up by the end of this year if I take a few more classes.

6. Monthly sister dinners once/month

My sister and I started this last summer, and we've been able to stick with it most months!

7. Complete 10 site visits with Pippa 

Pippa and I are doing "Love on a Leash" pet therapy and she needs 10 supervised site visits this year.

8. Attend Articles Club each month

I love this!  A group of girls gets together each month to discuss articles centered around a certain theme. It's a little easier than a book club, since you can quickly read the articles before our monthly discussion. I still hope to read several books this year, but I love the articles concept.

9. Go to two gym classes a week

Oh man, this will be tough. They have childcare at certain times during the week, so it will involve some additional planning on my part. I can't imagine that I will be able to get to the gym in the evenings during the weekdays, so this may be a weekend goal.

10. Take care of myself

Get my hair done regularly. Spend  day at the Umstead Spa. Have evenings where I cook for myself, listen to music, and have a glass of wine. I need my alone time every now and then.

All ten goals are basically just making time for the things I want to do anyways during the year. With some careful planning, it shouldn't be too hard. :-)

Tuesday, January 12, 2016

You know how dogs will be dreaming and they move their paws as if they're running?

This morning when Pippa was dreaming, her mouth was moving as if she was devouring a bowl of food.

I tried to catch it on video, but by the time I got out my iPhone, she was already done.

That's a bulldog for ya.

Monday, January 11, 2016

The Office

I've been in a de-cluttering mood lately. I haven't actually de-cluttered, but I'm in the mood.

So a few weeks ago, I was discussing with Brian my idea of getting rid of all the crap in our house. There was just so much stuff occupying space - stuff that I knew we would never need or use. I wanted to simplify.

Brian was on board with the whole thing.

He wanted to start with our office.

(Office = junk room with a computer).

I was busy taking care of Cameron last week and not paying much attention to what Brian was doing in the office.

Stuff was going out. Stuff was going in.

So a few days later, I walk by the room and this is my reaction:

Ladies and gents, I present to you our new office:

Despite what you may be thinking, Brian does not work from home.

Let's look at this office from a different angle:

After I saw it, I just walked in to the kitchen, looked at Brian, and said "I'm ready for my annual review."

Friday, January 8, 2016

Life Lately

I can't believe it was only eight days ago that I was completely worn down, overwhelmed, and ready to crawl into bed and stay there forever.

This week has been excellent. Cam is happy and I feel like a brand new person! 

Right when I start to enjoy maternity leave, I'll have to turn around and go back to work. Such is life!

I got my hair done on Wednesday and it was the best money I ever spent. My self-esteem needed a boost. I had been feeling pretty down in the dumps.

After I sent the above picture to my best friend, she said she wanted to give me a crash course in taking selfies.

I'm so excited to learn from the pro:

"It's as cold as a witch's titty." - Amelia Deaton

Molly Maids cleaned our house this week. Second best money ever spent.

This weekend includes Duke basketball, margaritas, dinner with friends, church, and birthday parties. Woohoo! I'm finally coming out of isolation!

Happy Friday, friends!

Thursday, January 7, 2016

My Curiosity Got the Best of Me...Again.

"I remember my first time like it was yesterday."
                                                    -Brian, two weeks ago

(Brian was referring to the first time he ever heard a Kanye West song. I wish I was joking.)

I remember my first time like it was yesterday, too. It was both awkward and terrifying. Only I'm referring to the first time I ever saw a customer leaving Tom Cats.

If you're from Durham or have ever ventured over near South Miami Blvd, you know exactly what I'm talking about.

Tom Cats.

This place is sketchy as all get out.

You're driving down Highway 70, passing by gas stations, fast food restaurants, and car dealerships.

Normal, right?

But then you glance up on the hill and see a gravel driveway leading to a ranch-style brick house with the blinds closed and a sign that says "Tom Cats."

There's a big wooden privacy fence around the back of the house that says "Customers Only."

Nothing legal could possibly be going on in this place.

(Not actually Tom Cats, but a close enough representation.)

I've driven by Tom Cats no fewer than one million times in my life.

I have never seen an actual customer...until last week.

So I'm driving back home to Raleigh a few days ago when, like always, I glance over at Tom Cats.
I immediately do a double take.
There's a Lexus SUV coming down the driveway.

This SUV was not just someone who accidentally pulled into the Tom Cats driveway to turn around. (Although I imagine if that happened it would be pretty funny. You're just trying to turn around, pull into the driveway, look up, and think "What the...".)

This SUV is creeping down the gravel driveway, and you know me, I'm straining my neck trying to get a good look.

I've never seen an actual person frequent this joint, so it's an exciting moment in my life.

The SUV pulls out onto the highway right behind my car and by the time we get to the next stoplight, it's right beside me.

I kept trying not to stare at the guy, but I couldn't help myself. I needed to see this. As luck would have it, he felt me staring. He turned his head toward me and we made eye contact.

I quickly looked away, but it was too late at that point.
He had seen me.

When I thought it was safe, I slowly turned my head again to see if he was still looking at me, and - no joke - this happened:

(No, Jimmy Fallon was not at Tom Cats, but this represents what happened in the story.)

So then the two of us were looking at each other, knowing exactly what the other person was thinking. 

I know you were at Tom Cats.

She knows I was at Tom Cats.  

When the light turned green, he let me go first and then got behind my vehicle. I was pretty scared at that point, thinking he might follow me home and then try to murder me because I knew he was at Tom Cats, but then he pulled into Pizza Hut. 

So that's a recap of my first time. 

It involved awkward eye contact, nervousness on my part, and heavy breathing. It was invigorating, as expected; however, I cannot recommend it. If you ever find yourself car to car with a Tom Cats customer, just keep looking forward. 

Wednesday, January 6, 2016

OK, I lied.

I'm a sucker for compliments.

Brian got this message on Facebook yesterday:

"Your wife has such a gift for blogging, please encourage her to continue. Ben and I love her humor on the blog, it brightens our day!"

(When I centered and italicized that quote, I realized I could've pretty much made up anything and you'd believe it because it was centered and italicized.)

Brian also got this message on Facebook yesterday:

"Kelly is intelligent, charming, and attractive. Just thought you should know."

I considered posting this photo and tagging Brian's friend that sent him that message:

Then this would happen:

Then I'd act all like "Damn, now I gotta blog again."

But alas, I reconsidered that approach because I don't want people to think I'm crazy, and mostly because I had a lot of good blog ideas running through my head and it would be a shame not to share them with you.

(Unbeknownst to him, Brian has given me a lot of good blog material to work with this week.) 

So here's the reasons I didn't want to blog in 2016:
1. Lack of time

2. Blogging sucks. You put yourself out there and you have no idea who's reading your stuff.

I mean, I've thought about blogging anonymously, but can you imagine?

I can.

a.) no one would read it because no one would know it existed, or
b.) I'd change some names, complain about my really stubborn...Golden Retrievers, then I'd share the link on Facebook and everyone would be like "Kelly, we know that's you."

3. And this is probably the biggest reason. As soon as I removed my post from the other day (which I will not re-post for those of you that didn't get a chance to read it, because I like to remain mysterious), my sister said this:

"I knew you would be all dramatic, take that post down, and then say you're never blogging again."

My sister knows me so well that it angers me. The fact that she was right is the #1 reason I never want to blog again. If you have a sibling, perhaps you understand.

So here I am blogging again, even though I suffered temporary-post-traumatic-blogging-stress after I shared my thoughts the other day.

I'm sorry for Veruca Salting everyone.

At first I was all sweet and loving about motherhood, and then...I snapped. 

If you thought my post was harsh and insensitive, listen to this on repeat for six hours a day for five weeks and then get back to me. 

I think it goes without saying that I love Cameron more than life itself.

But you know what else I love?
Peace and quiet.

Also in that post I said that Brian was a horrible human. Some people may not have realized that I was only half-joking. So if you're new to this blog, pretty much click on any other post I've ever written and you'll realize that Brian is my favorite person in the world.

Here's the thing, Brian. I can't be nice to you in every post. I could try, but it just wouldn't be as funny.


I'm back.

Friday, January 1, 2016


Dearest blog friends:
Sorry I removed yesterday's post. I wrote it under the influence...of hormones. I got several comments and messages on Facebook regarding that post from people who  could relate perfectly to being  overwhelmed with parenting. I truly appreciate all the positive feedback and words of encouragement.

After much consideration (five minutes ago), I decided not to blog in 2016. I know when I go back to work in a couple weeks, I just won't have the time anymore. I'm going to leave the blog up for now in case some random person finds it from Google because they need  advice on how to decorate a woodlands-themed nursery. ;)

Wishing you all a happy 2016!