Friday, January 6, 2017

2017 Goals

Brian and I rang in the new year with some of our best friends, a Mexican dinner, and then drinks at O'Malley's. We had such a fun night and it was a great start to 2017.

When I originally started thinking about how I wanted this year to look, my mind immediately jumped to some big ideas - start working towards a career change? another dog? a new house? a brother for Cam?  - but ultimately I've concluded I just want a simple year ahead.

Simple is good.

I don't feel like tackling anything major, nor do I feel like challenging myself at the moment. I'm in a very comfortable spot and I have a feeling there are big things on the horizon, but I feel like sitting on it for now.

I'm currently reading Megyn Kelly's book "Settle for More," and when she was describing her relationship with her former husband, she quipped that she was the stocks and he was the bonds.

The same is true for me and Brian.

When we first started dating, I was honestly shocked that Brian took a chance on me. He was several years older and already a few years into a successful career with an MBA under his belt. I brought nothing to the table.

Still to this day, Brian sees so much potential and has invested his whole life into my stock. What a risk taker! He is my biggest champion and probably a bit disappointed that I don't have any big goals for this year.

My goal for 2017 is to go deep - I want to go deep into the Word and deep into my prayer life to really seek God's direction for my life. I'm pretty sure this means I'll be waking up at 5 AM to read the Bible and drink my coffee. In the meantime, I will continue to work hard at being the best wife, mom, and assistant that I can be. If that's all I ever am, I'm confident that that's enough.

Beyond that, I have a list of other (less spiritual) goals for this year and they are as follows:

1. Increase our Molly Maids cleaning to every other week instead of once per month.
 I want to "go deep" this year, but no deep cleaning if I can help it.

2. Travel
I'd love to go visit my friends in Morganton, NC and Virginia Beach. I would also love to visit The Silos in Waco, TX and The Pioneer Woman's Mercantile in Pawhuska, OK. Weekend trips to the New River Gorge and New York City, perhaps? I need a travel companion because Brian said his goal is to go nowhere.

3. Be a Pack Leader to the Dogs  - Exercise, Discipline, then Affection
This has been weighing on me for a while and honestly affecting my quality of life, but I'm struggling with Otis. He is unpredictably aggressive. He is dominant. He doesn't listen (neither does Pippa, but that's because she's not very bright). Otis sleeps 99% of the day, but there's 1% of the day when he is defiant. He gets under the coffee table when it's time to go on a walk and it becomes a battle of the wills. His life goal as of late is to destroy our neighbor's poodle. Despite his resistance, Otis needs more exercise and a mile-long walk everyday. 

4. Blog...more than 2016. Should be easy, right? :)
My current fave blogger always posts every day about the most mundane things in life (Mix and Match Mama). Every day I'm like "why do I read this each morning?" I don't know her personally, nor do I really care about what she did yesterday, but she is always so positive and happy. She never writes anything negative and it's so refreshing. When she blogs about a weekend getaway, for instance, she rarely mentions the frustration of plane delays, the stress of traveling with four kids, or the disappointment when it rains the entire weekend. Reading her blog is such a little thing that has become a bright spot in my day because she has such a magnetic and positive attitude. I hope my blog can be a bright spot in someone's day. 

That's it for 2017 goals. Here we go!

Tuesday, January 3, 2017

2016 Goals Revisited

I hope 2017 will be a great year for everyone! I will turn 30 in May, so that's a big milestone. For the past few weeks I've been thinking about what I hope for next year and what big goals I want to achieve. 

I think I just want to keep things simple for the coming year. I'll work on finalizing my goals and post them later in the week.

My only goal for January is to wake up early (5:30am), have a cup of coffee, and read the Bible/pray before I start the day.

It was raining this morning and I didn't want to get out of bed, so I'm off to a pretty bad start.

Here's how I fared with my 2016 goals, just in case you're wondering:

1. Attend church on Sundays - YES!

2. Create a schedule for laundry & maintenance cleaning - YES! No defined schedule, but I do a load of laundry practically every day, so that's a success in my book. 
3. Go on a date once a month with Brian - Eh, maybe? We went on a few I think.
4. Plan something with friends once a month - YES!
5. Complete my L&OD Certificate of Excellence at Duke - NO, but I'm only three classes away from completing this, so I can probably finish it this year.
6. Monthly sister dinners once/month- NO. This did not happen at all this year. I think we should try quarterly instead.
7. Complete 10 site visits with Pippa - YES!
8. Attend Articles Club each month - YES!
9. Go to two gym classes a week - LOL!
10. Take care of myself - YES! Well, minus going to the gym. I kept up with my hair appointments, had a spa day, and relaxed with a glass of wine almost every night after work. :)

Friday, December 30, 2016

2016 Highlights

Wow, what an unforgettable year 2016 has been.

To be honest, it started off pretty miserably. The transition from zero to one child was unexpectedly difficult. Now I feel like I'm over the hump and could easily have more kids, but zero to one...WHOA. What a ride it has been.

This year has definitely been a year of growth and change. It's hard to articulate, but overall I feel...
- Less patient
- More confident
- Less worrisome
- More generous

The thing that stands out to me the most this year is the amount of support I've gotten from my family. I've always been close to my parents, but I have relied on them more than ever before and they have really been my rock. I'm pretty sure they kept me from jumping off a cliff on numerous occasions. :)

Another thing that stands out is how sick I have been this year! I'm usually never sick, but I've been through two major stomach viruses and other minor illnesses this year. Cam has not been sick at all, which makes me think I gave him all of my immunity when he was born!

Despite being sick (again!) for these final two weeks of the year, I'm ending 2016 on a high note.

When I look back at certain moments this year, I can definitely say it's been one of the happiest times of my life, mostly thanks to this young man, God's gift to the world:

"The message is simple: When you come to one of the many moments in life when you must give an account of yourself, provide a ledger of what you have been, and done, and meant to the world, do not, I pray, discount that you filled [my] days with a sated joy, a joy unknown to me in all my prior years, a joy that does not hunger for more and more, but rests, satisfied. In this time, right now, that is an enormous thing.” 
                          - When Breath Becomes Air

2016 Highlights
  • Every moment with Cam.
  • Every moment with our dogs / pet therapy at the Ronald McDonald House with Pippa
  • A weekend at my parents house in January. It snowed that weekend and I had a lot of extra help with a newborn!
  • Regular days spent at home doing routine stuff around our house.
  • My sister's wedding
  • The Stand 
  • Basement renovation!!!
  • More involvement with my church and my Sunday School class
  • Annapolis, Wrightsville Beach, Las Vegas, Bermuda, and Palm Beach
  • Blueberry picking out in the country. It was sunny and hot, and overall just a perfect summer day.
  • Being pampered at the Umstead spa
  • Fun nights out with friends
  • Discovering Fixer-Upper this December for the first time!! Now I stream the HGTV show and I just finished reading the Magnolia Story. It has been life-changing, haha!
  • Celebrating our fourth wedding anniversary, surviving our 8th year together, and adjusting to our first year as parents. Brian still has the best (and most unexpected) humor of anyone I know, but you have to catch him at just the right moment. Those moments make me the happiest. 

Wednesday, December 7, 2016

The "Why?" Chromosome

Have I ever shared with you my theory on male and female chromosomes?

Here it is:

Men have the X and the Y chromosomes because they're the ones that often do stupid things that leave us shaking our heads and wondering "WHY????"

Females have the XX chromosomes because we always have to repeat ourselves.

(I should be a high school biology teacher. I feel I've missed my calling.)

Anyhow, my relationship with Brian regularly reinforces this theory and I have a recent example.

As background to this story, when Brian and I got married, I was banking at BB&T and he used Wells Fargo. He made the sacrifice and switched his accounts over to BB&T. Four years later, he still never misses an opportunity to tell me how much he dislikes the Best Bank in Town.

So we were at dinner a couple weeks ago and Brian was looking down at his phone, very frustrated with something. I heard a combination of mumbled words, cursing, and "BB&T sucks."

Here's what happened next....

K: "What's wrong?"
B: "BB&T has the dumbest security questions ever. I can't login because I can't remember the friggin' answer."
K: "What's the question?"
B: "What's your favorite color?"

(brief silence, Kelly thinking)

K: "Well, what is your favorite color?"

(Brian exasperated, highly annoyed)

B: "I don't know Kelly. Blue, I guess."
K: "Did you try blue?"
B: "It's not blue!"
K: "You just said your favorite color was blue."
B: "I didn't answer it with blue."
K: "Well what's your second favorite color? Maybe try green."
B: "It's not a color! I used a code word."

(Kelly amused, suppressing laughter)

K: "A code word?"
B: "A code word. It's recommended that you use a code word. You just use the same word for every question and that way you don't have to remember your answers."
K: "I've never heard of doing that. I always remember my answers."

(Brian silence)

K: "What's your code word?"
B: "Oh my god."
K: "You don't remember it?"
B: "If I did, I wouldn't be locked out of the account right now."

(angry silence)

K: "I just don't understand why you didn't answer the question with blue."

(more angry silence)

B: "Okay can we talk about something else. Obviously BB&T sucks and now I'm going to have to reset everything."

(approximately 2-3 minutes of silence)

K: "I still just don't understand why you didn't answer the question with blue."