Thursday, January 5, 2012

Life Lessons, Wisdom, and Relationships

Am I young?
Am I old?
I guess the answer depends on the person I'm asking.
(Although I still like to think I could pass for seventeen).

My attitude and my actions now reflect a maturity that I didn't have ten years ago, and in ten years from now, I'll hopefully be saying the same thing.

I count my blessings that Facebook did not exist when I was in middle school or high school. I had enough concerns about my looks, my popularity, my friendships, and my social status, without the added pressure of comparing myself to my Facebook friends, using it as an emotional outlet, or trying to gain attention through my photos or status updates.

I even look back on some of my blog posts and can tell you that I'm not proud of them. Whether I was angry, bitter, or hurt, emotions are always a hard thing to disguise.

I'm trying to live my life with greater intentionality, and avoid doing anything that would be incongruent with my personal goals: to be kind to everyone, to be successful, to show gratitude, or as my mother likes to say...

To live above reproach.

When I think of the things I value most in life, such as my relationship with Brian, I stop and ask myself if my actions and behaviors are consistent with those values.

If my significant other was doing this action/behavior, would I care?

If he were innocently flirting with someone else, would I care?
If he was venting about me to his friends, would I care?
If he was being disrespectful to me, would I care?

Let me backtrack and say that I've never actually worried about Brian innocently flirting with other girls.

I've beared witness to his attempts at flirting.

Relationships are hard enough as it is.

If I your actions are not beneficial to the relationship, you need to re-evaluate your intentions.

Anyways, I don't know why I'm saying all this.  My own relationship is rainbows and butterflies.

The proof is in the pictures.


I should probably write a book on relationships.

Not a book on marraige.

Just a book on long-term dating.

Well, I've now completely lost track of my original blog intentions and I have inserted "Relationships" into the blog title, so that I may somewhat fool you into thinking this was my plan all along. Tomorrow I will unveil my real post of personal wisdoms.

All for now.

Happy Thursday!

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